IT WAS THE BEST AND THE WORST
IT WAS THE BEST AND THE WORST!
I hope that you all had a great 4th of July weekend and that all of your pets were safe and back to normal, now that the fireworks are over. Denise and I spent the 4th among the red rocks in beautiful Sedona, Arizona where we have a vacation home. Of course, Cisko and the amazing Skyler were with us -- they adore chasing the lizards in the yard and I’ve purchased a kiddy pool for the guys as well. All they’ve done is drink the water so far, but I assure you by the end of the week they’ll be snorkeling like pros. By the way, in a future blog I’ll tell you the story of a dog that I really had to teach to dive underwater in an underwater doggy diving suit.
On the 4th, we attended a small patriotic parade, I mean small town, Clarkdale Arizona. It was amazing to see how even small towns celebrate America in big ways. Theirs was a parade, which consisted of five members of the local V.F.W. led by the town’s antique fire truck, then a parade of kids on patriotic decorated bikes, the dog dressed like Uncle Sam, and even a goat celebrated the day. The morning started with a pancake breakfast sponsored by the local firefighters and police, and went into late afternoon with a band playing patriotic music in the town square -- it was like being part on a Norman Rockwell painting. So much for my 4th -- let me hear about yours and your pets.
WOMAN KILLS HER DOGS TO BE WITH FIANCEE IN HAWAII!
This incredible and sick story appeared on the MSNBC website, as reported by NBC news.
Question: About a year ago, I made the heart-wrenching decision to leave a great job, house, friends to move to Hawaii with my fiancé.
As part of the transition, I also chose to have my two beloved chow chow dogs put to sleep. This was done for a variety of reasons, including their age and temperament, the smaller living quarters in Hawaii, the tropical climate and frequent travels, all with the goal of making our new life as stress-free as possible. I adored those dogs, but I justified their sacrifice to the greater good of a successful relationship.
The letter goes on with the woman exclaiming that after six months she is still feeling tormented by the memories of her dogs.
ANSWER BY A HUMAN PSYCHIATRIST
It was reasonable for you to join your fiancee in Hawaii. And maybe it would not have been fair to take the dogs, because of the factors you mention. You didn’t want the dogs to suffer, and they didn’t. But it’s really clear you now recognize this decision was extreme.
The Doctor went on to give some interesting concepts, like you could have found a home for the dogs and even went on that perhaps adopting a dog in need from a shelter and that it might help with your guilt.
Last week on the Radio shows I gave my thoughts, like how could a meaningful relationship even begin, when you have to give up your family -- “YES, PETS ARE PART OF THE FAMILY” -- for it. Bearing in mind that I deal with animal psychology not human psychology, anyone can surmise that this woman needs some serious psychological help. How anyone could kill their pets after twelve years is beyond my comprehension -- this is a sick woman who needs help and despite the doctor’s suggestion to adopt another pet, I do not know any worthwhile humane group that would let her!
YOUR THOUGHTS?? LET ME HEAR FROM YOU
HUGS AND KISSES
Warren Eckstein
14 Comments:
When my husband and I got engaged he thought I was going to "give up" my cats! I told him that we are a package deal and he takes all of us or none of us. That was almost twenty five years ago. Since then my husband and I raised many stray cats together in our home and he has become the best cat dad a cat could want. If we ever divorced there would be a very bitter custody battle!
As for the woman who killed her dogs, her conscience is giving her what she deserves. I would have second thoughts about a man who would demand such an unreasonable sacrifice
Hello Warren, Your home is in Ca. so I assume you drive to Arizona. Since you love Harleys I was wondering if you, Denise and Cisko ever go by bike. I can't imagine Skylar going since he is so big. Is it safe to go with your "kids"? Would make a cool picture for you to post for us. As for the woman who killed her dogs I have absolutely no sympathy. I wouldn't trust that kook with a goldfish.
As I again come to a time when I have to make the agonizing decision to put another one of my "furbabies" down. My beloved Dion has cancer. I cannot have any sympathy for this woman. When I heard this story I could not help shedding tears for these poor dogs. I have many "furbabies" and everyday they look at me with their trusting eyes,knowing I will feed them, love them, protect them take care of them the best way I can. I have many senior citizens and a couple of sick ones. I can imagine this woman's dogs looking at her with trust, then she puts them down. I'd like to know how her human relationship is going, noone should ask you to make this sacrifice. As for the human who said she should get another dog, maybe that human doesn't know any better. The woman in the story should never have another pet of any kind. How dare she want sympathy, when she had no sympathy for those dogs. She should suffer guilt. How dare she say she adored those dogs. As I sit here with my heart breaking for my Dion,I can have no compassion for this woman, she gets what she deserves.
PS Warren,Everyday I talk to Dion, I know the time is soon. In one of your books you said to let them go with dignity and everytime I have to make the decision to send one of them to the Rainbow Bridge, I keep reminding myself of what you said. It doesn't make it any less panful but it does help.`Thanks for doing your show every week for us true animal lovers.
I cannot see anthing but being selfish in her decision .
A Pet ,cat,dog or other is a member of the family .There is no greater love ,except for God ,that is given so freely and without restraint .Why snuff that out for someone that may not even want you tomorrow .
I have had to make that decision ,My Bass ,my beloved Bass thqat got hurt badly and could not be saved ,it was a slow death or relief and I chose relief .
I grieve still and still after a few years call his name at treat time and in my prayers .
I cannot understand to make that decision in hte manner tht was done .
This reminds me of something.
A friend of mine had a senior dog along with a great boyfriend. She was totally in love with both.
Boyfriend got a job in Bermuda and wanted her to come. In this person's world it was totally out of the question as it wasn't possible for Beaner to go.
She did not go to Bermuda but stayed in New York with Beaner. Her boyfriend was not happy and moved on to Bermuda without her.
A couple of years later when Beaner passed on from natural causes her boyfriend was happy to have her join him.
She did not even consider for one second going without her best friend.
i would like to see more pics on the website!!
thanks for putting Lloyd on there!
Today we attended the 10th annual Wiener Nationals at the Los Alamitos Race Track in Orange County, CA.
There were 8 dachshund races followed by a championship race. They had a special starting gate & finish line covering 50 yards of the track.
The dogs were hilarious. Some made a bee line for the roses while others preferred to smell the roses or chase other dogs.
It was delightful and the proceeds were used to benefit the Seal Beach Animal Care Center.
I hope to see you all there next year.
Lloyd Zemmol
Let's get the word out about leaving animals in cars. It happened the other day again. This animal was left in the car in this heat. Thank God he is still alive. There is no excuse for this. The reason? Cause he ruins the furniture if i leave him home! Then don't have a dog or train him!! I should have called the North Shore animal league when he was adopted. Hope this woman learned.
Hi Warren. First of all I want to say that I have listened to you several times in the morning on Mix 107.3! You are great!
My family had the most wonderful german shepard / husky mix named Comet. Sadly, she passed away the day after her 11th birthday earlier this year in March. She is greatly missed. For the woman who killed her two dogs to move to be with her fiance, she is in DIRE need of serious psychological help! I would do anything to have Comet back, and can't even comprehend the fact that someone would put down their pet for any reason other than if the pet was seriously ill and, or dying. Pets are apart of the family, and I could never imagine doing such a thing. What that woman did makes me ill.
Hi - I stumbled upon this page while searching for something else related, so apologies for a belated post, but I just had to respond.
The woman in this story behaved so selfishly that I actually pity her. Her actions were completely shallow, self-absorbed, self-serving, short-sighted, destructive, heartless, and foolish. That her fiance seemed fine with her decision is stunning, and warrants further pity. How exactly does that conversation go? "Honey, if I come with you to Hawaii, well, I can't take the dogs... I guess I could ... put them down?" "Well, if that's what you think is best, ok, that sounds like a good idea." How do you welcome a person into your arms who killed two dogs to get there? Both of these people behaved in absolutely shocking ways.
My boyfriend knew how much I loved all animals, cats in particular. But Murphy's Law - he was horribly allergic. Whenever he'd come over to my place, he'd start sneezing, with eyes watering and throat itching, within about 30 minutes, thanks to the other love of my life, Sunshine, a big fat tabby. Because of his allergies, breathing often became difficult, at which point he'd have to leave. He took Claritin to keep it under control, but there were good days and there were not so good days.
He proposed in Dec 2004, and I said yes. Knowing how much it would sadden me to ever have to live without cats, my baby Sunshine in particular, he signed himself up for allergy shots - and this man HATES shots. We didn't even have to discuss it - there was no decision that had to be made - he knew how much I loved Sunshine, and he knew how much he loved me, and this completely trumped any reluctance he might have had regarding shots. That wonderful man went to the clinic faithfully for his SIX shots a WEEK, for FOUR months straight.
During this time, Sunshine suffered a sudden, unexpected, and rapid decline. She had developed cancer. I have some vivid memories - amongst them, the moment in which I finally realized what the vet was saying to me, how she had to spell it out for me because my mind just wasn't getting it - Sunshine was dying, she would die within a matter of days, and she would suffer to her last moment.
Putting her down was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I desperately wanted to keep her here with me as long as possible, but I let her go sooner, because I loved her more than I loved me.
My fiance was there for me every painful step of the way, holding me up. And he never stopped taking his shots. He's now on "maintenance," which for him means only 2 shots per month.
We got married on Nov. 11, 2005. Near the end of our honeymoon, he turned to me and asked me with a gentle smile what kind of cats I would like to adopt.
I love my husband, and he loves me. When love is real, strong, vital, and healthy, it does not mean that one person needs to discard the other parts of their life, character, personality, and loves in order to "make room" for their significant other. If all the giving is happening on one side, you'd better ask yourself why the relationship is so lopsided. And you'd also better not claim to "love" a pet if you're willing to have them killed, not because they've become sick, but because they've become inconvenient to you.
To the woman: Your guilt is a good thing. Use it and learn from it. Forgive yourself in the end, because what you did, as horrible as it is, is forgiveable, and none of us have the right to condemn you, but learn the lesson your guilt is trying to teach you, first.
Thank you!
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